The computer has allowed us to organize chaos, file our thoughts, and even escape from the ordinary. But this modern miracle has caused many of us to become detached from the ones we love.

Instead of using the internet as a way to escape boredom, use it to spice up your love-life. Try these tips from Jessica Denay of hotmomsclub.com to give your romance the reboot it needs.

Go Online for Love. Online dating sites are becoming very popular and even more reputable. If you long for love, then don’t be shy—there are many sites that cater to different types of people looking for certain things in a relationship. If you’re still a bit nervous, read testimonials and reviews to see what the members of particular sites are looking for: casual, serious, long distance, short-distance, etc… Don’t want to pay a nominal fee to find love? Then try social networking sites, like Facebook, that offer opportunities to connect with other singles through virtual mixers.

Textual Feeling. Whether it’s a sexy instant message, an email with a suggestive subject line, or flirty texts sent throughout the day, surprise them with a little digital seduction.

Modern Mix Tape. Remember those little cassette tapes that you made for your grade school crush by recording songs off the radio? Let the music do the leg work for you by creating an iPod playlist of meaningful, sexy, silly, or even over-the-top love songs. Whenever your partner hears your playlist they will be thinking of you — and remember, a playlist lasts much longer than a dozen roses.

Send a Sexy Online Valentine. There are many sites which offer free or low cost digital cards. They can be highly personalized unlike the typical Hallmark card stock. So whether you upload your own photo or use a sexy theme from sites like snapily.com, a site that offers cards with burlesque pin-ups or peep show templates, your Valentine will love your sultry digital gesture.

Map Your Love Landmarks. Pictures speak a thousand words. Create a digital slideshow using pictures of personal ‘love landmarks.’ Or use an online mapping program, like Google Maps, to create a map of all of your romantic or sexy encounters. Think of where you had your first kiss, first date, the site of a naughty road trip deed, or where you were married. By using pictures or map locations they will have to think about what happened at that setting, and while photo albums are wonderful, memories can be much more vivid.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Jessica Denay was a single mom frustrated with the drab image of motherhood. That is, until the New Jersey native and former teacher created the Hot Moms Club website and blog. Since then, she has become a go-to parenting advisor, frequent expert on morning shows, and all around ‘Hot Mom.’